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Family relationships are crucial resources for Warfighters. Here are some ways you can strengthen your family relationships.

Family relationships are crucial resources for Warfighter. There are many ways you can strengthen your family relationships—HPRC highlights some resources below.

HPRC thanks the Families Overcoming Under Stress Program (FOCUS) for allowing us to post many of their resources.

HPRC Effective Communication [PDF]
Being able to communicate well is essential for happy relationships. When there is something important that you want to talk about with your loved one, the guidelines on this downloadable card can help.
HPRC Making Decisions [PDF]
Families need to make a lot of decisions and solve a lot of problems together. Sometimes discussions can erupt into fighting rather than progress towards an end result that everyone feels good (enough) about. Check out the guidelines on this downloadable card to improve your chances of getting to a decision or solving a problem.
Building Family Resilience
Learn about how to build family resilience in the military family during and following deployment from the information in this resource.
Families & Friendships created this guidebook with tips on how to talk to your family. They describe “I” statements, how to handle conflict, improving your relationships, and ideas for how to talk to each other after deployments.
Building Resilience in Children and Teens [PDF]
This handout from offers ten tips to help build resilience in children and teens. They highlight ideas such as sticking to a daily routine, teaching children self-care, practicing acceptance, and keeping things in perspective.
FOCUS: Family Resilience Training for Military Families
FOCUS (Families OverComing Under Stress) provides in-person resiliency training to military children and families affected by deployment. Parents and children learn to use tools and techniques to better prepare themselves for future deployments, how to understand their emotions better, and methods to optimize how they communicate with one another.
Talk, Listen, Connect: Deployments, Homecomings, Changes
The second phase of a military outreach project created in 2008 by Sesame Street offers resources for military families with young children. The project helps children cope with the effects of deployment, multiple deployments, and reintegration with a parent. Specifically, Sesame Street’s Talk, Listen, Connect helps: • Maintain feelings of togetherness for children and reassure them they are loved and secure. • Assist parents in coping with multiple deployments. • Relate to children through age-appropriate methods of coping with and understanding possible deployment-related events (including grief).
When to Seek Help for a Child [PDF]
This handout focuses on when to seek help for a child you may be concerned about, including behaviors by age group that may indicate a child may need professional support. The message stresses that there is nothing wrong with getting help.
FOCUS Family Calendar [PDF]
A great way to document family milestones as well as everyday family events is a family calendar, which helps you stay connected and all be on the same page. The FOCUS (Families Overcoming Under Stress) program created this worksheet to help you create your own family calendar. And once you have created it, you can hang it on a central spot in your house so everyone can see it and stay informed.
FOCUS Family Collage [PDF]
Creating a collage together as a family can be a fun bonding activity. You can make one to represent your family, family values, or a specific topic, such as portraying an event for a deployed loved one who was not home for. FOCUS created this helpful worksheet on how to make your own family collage.
FOCUS Family Statements [PDF]
The FOCUS (Families Overcoming Under Stress) program has found that it can be helpful for families to articulate their strengths and family values in a “family mission statement.” For help on how to create one for your own family, check out this handout that describes family statements, gives you some starter questions, a space to write out your own family’s statement, and a thought-provoking activity on what you can’t live without.
Parenting For Service Members and Veterans
The Department of Defense and Veterans Affairs created a website solely dedicated to parenting for Service Members and Veterans. You can take courses, view modules, and tip sheets on a variety of topics like parent-child communication, emotions, discipline, stress management for parents, and parenting with emotional and physical challenges.
Sesame Street for Military Families
Sesame Stress for Military Families is a website dedicated to providing information for military families about changes and challenges such as parental deployments, injury, grief, self expression, and family relocation through mobile apps, downloadable PDFs, and other formats.
Military Youth on the Move
Military Youth on the Move provides advice to children, preteens, and teens on a variety of topics related to military families, from podcasts on staying in touch with old friends, to videos about parent’s deployment, and even information on packing and moving to a new place. The website also provides information on healthy eating, bullying, and online safety.
Tips for caregivers
Caregivers play an essential role in the recovery of an injured, ill, or wounded service member. The emotional, physical, and psychological health of the caregiver is also important in this process.
Planning a home birth? Be prepared!
Deciding whether or not to birth at home is a big decision, but if you’re thinking about it, follows these tips and develop a solid plan.
Shifting from service family to civilian family
Transitioning from active duty to veteran status involves change. Learn how your entire family can weather these changes well.
Duty to country and family
Need your family to be more supportive of your role as a service member? Learn how to get on the same page with your loved ones.
Basic family skills: Communication and listening
Family relationships are rooted in interactions. This section focuses on important communication and listening skills as necessary components for peak relationship performance.
Overall Family Optimization Skills
Relationships have the power to be positive or negative forces in our lives – depending on the quality of the relationship. This page details key areas of couples and family functioning that one can use in order to create more positive and supportive relationships, and consequently optimize one’s health.